How to be positively cynical
At first thought, “positively cynical” seems like a non-sequitur. Being cynical, according to author Jamil Zaki[1] is a belief that people generally are selfish, greedy and dishonest. The degree, to which we accept this view, influences how we interact with others. It also influences – negatively – how well we perform on a wide variety of…
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