Drama triangle
The drama triangle is a useful model from transactional analysis. It depicts the interplay of power and responsibility between people. In the drama triangle there are three roles: Victim (feeling vulnerable) Persecutor (seen as having power) Rescuer (seen as taking responsibility) When someone asks for help, they can easily fall into the victim role. Anyone…
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